Another Casualty of War

Last night, I received the nightmarish news. It was my brother on the phone calling to tell me that a childhood friend of ours has descended into Meth addiction, and is currently nowhere to be found. He went on to explain how "S" had returned from his tour of duty in Iraq, where he was stationed with the Marines, and had been experiencing PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). Apparently veteran affairs didn't give two craps about him, and he was not offered any exit counseling or therapy. Thrown to the dogs "S" picked up Crystal Meth as a means of coping.

First his wife left him, and then he was barred from visiting his children. Eventually he lost his job, his house, ... everything. His last known whereabouts was at a shelter run by Veteran Affairs, but he has since gone missing. His teeth are falling out, his skin is covered with self inflicted sores, and he's become a full-blown paranoid delusional. Word is, last family member to pay him a visit had the misfortune of using his bathroom, and as they exited the room they were met at the door with "S" shoving a handgun in their face while screaming 'I told you not to flush the toilet!!'

From Tim's perspective, "S" is like a brother. After the State slapped our parents with the neglect suit, which eventually led to Tim's emancipation, the two of them were inseparable. For those two boys, life on the street at the tender age of 14 bred a level of codependence akin to the bonds developed through warfare. Tim now feels it's his responsibility to track down "S" and try to save him. The call last night was more or less a plea for assistance in that endeavor. I love my brother dearly, and I have a great deal of respect for "S," but I don't know what to do.

I spent the better portion of the day researching methamphetamine addiction and it's effects, yet I feel no closer to understanding this than when I first began. The man is armed and dangerous, and judging by his physical deterioration, on the brink of death; indicating that his addiction is severely advanced. Odds are, if we do find him, he won't be receptive to anything that we have to say because he will no longer view us as equals, (not having been subjected to the war), and as anyone who's studied social psych will attest, that's what is necessary for any true communication to occur under duress.

It's been a very long time since I've felt this conflicted. Fuck this war and the lives that are being destroyed by it.

12 comments:

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cooper said...

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I can't imagine, what a mess - take care for our own huh? I'd plaster this story all over the local news, and I'd be calling the VA and telling them a thing or two while explaining to them they had better not only help find him but help treat him and pronto.

How dare they.

franscud said...

I've heard very similar stories about the VA's refusal to properly treat returning vets, and it's heart breaking. The more you dig into this war and see the real affects on people (all sides), it's just devastating. And to think Bush was up on his podium talking about how the cost has been worth it. You know where he can stick that bs. I'm feeling for you, your brother and your friend Dave. I hope something positive can come of this, though I know that's unlikely.

Nelson M. said...

Oh man, this story just makes me mad. Especially knowing how many people out there defend the military. And Bush and Cheney, the sociopaths, go around defending this war everyday. Ugh.

I'm still not sure why you say you're conflicted, can you clarify? Because intervening likely won't help you mean?

Dave J. said...

Monitor de LCD,
'Fly by night away from here.' I think Rush got it right regarding your approach to commenting, if only through their name.

I don't know whether to delete your comment, or leave it as an example of how not to interact with others.

Thanks for visiting. :/

Dave J. said...

Coop,
Yeah really. Chew em' up, spit em' out right? Such a double standard. 'Be all you can be,'--(until you become flawed, at which point you are damaged goods). Sad.

We tried contacting the VA to get names and #'s of others that were in his unit, hoping that "S" would be able to relate to them, but they won't give out the information.

Dave J. said...

Fran,
Thanks friend, I appreciate your thoughts/prayers. Bush has about as much chance of empathizing with a forlorn soldier, as that same soldier would be able to feel compassion for a corporation losing money in the second quarter.

I suppose the one positive that has come from this is the perspective gained regarding how good we have it here, despite all the BS, the anxiety, frustration, complaining... at least we aren't in Iraq. I feel terrible saying that, but it's true.

Dave J. said...

Nelson,
Sociopath is a good way to describe their mentality. They may not be pulling the trigger directly, but they are enabling it to be pulled enmass. If Americas leaders were anywhere other than here and now, they would be indicted for war crimes.

I just meant conflicted over how to proceed. The discouraging knowledge that if we find him, he's probably too far gone -vs- the fear that our interference might escalate the situation, actually making things worse.

Valentin said...

Dave .. wtf can I say ...

Life sucks .. and this guy here :

http://br.youtube.com/watch?v=I59rCNVrXdg&feature=related

say about things in a better english than mine ...

Dave J. said...

Val,
I admire Country Joe too. He comes from an era of protest, and was not afraid to speak out.

Jennifer said...

Hey Dave,

Any news?

It is difficult for me to put into words the sorrow I feel when the destruction and heart break of war comes into my consciousness.

War seems like a most primitive archaic practice that should have long, LONG ago been eliminated from the human mind, yet society perpetuates the madness.

I recently spent some time in DC and saw dozens of young cadets in uniform training and preparing to partipate in the military.

While they were wonderful young people my mind kept reflecting on the sickness of a society that trains its young people to fight.

I don't know the answer to the problem of war but I believe as more and more people decide there WILL be another way to exist, we move toward bringing new light into our world!

And, my friend, you are helping the effort!

Love to you,

Jen

Dave J. said...

Jen,
Nothing. He is AWOL from life. There has been some speculation that maybe he's left Michigan but no one knows for sure.

What is the difference between one extremist society creating suicide bombers, and another that creates disaffected, tormented soldiers that return from war, destroy their family, and slowly kill themselves?

It frustrates me to no end that our government pawned this war off on the world as an act of self-defense.

Thanks for your thoughts Jen. I wish there was more I could tell you but we haven't made any progress yet. :/

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